Miller said, "We've been living our marriage vows for 31 years, but to actually have this be an accepted, legal standing - it gave us the feeling of legitimacy and pride that you just can't get any other way."
"We're going to take our tax money and our business," she said, "and we're going back someplace we're accepted."
Ohio is certainly lacking in acceptance, which is the main reason I created this petition to have the Cincinnati Bengals make an "It Gets Better" video. The state currently has a constitutional amendment banning any recognition of same-sex unions, and the Ohio Supreme Court just took a daughter away from a lesbian mom just because she wasn't the biological parent.
The Cincinnati Enquirer reports:
"People die in the closet. They hate themselves, they're hiding, they're living two lives," Miller said. Hinchman ended up working as a financial aid director, and Miller said she accidentally stumbled into a career in information technology. Her job transferred her to Cincinnati four years ago, a move Miller said they dreaded because Ohio didn't have the statewide housing protections and anti-discrimination laws for gays and lesbians that New York does. ...
Eventually, they found things to like about Cincinnati. It's a pretty city with a nice climate, Miller said. They've found people in line at the grocery store to be friendly and drivers to be considerate. They love the Cincinnati Pops, and said they have discovered a great spirit of volunteerism here.
But there are things that they would never do here, like put a rainbow or equality sticker on their car. . It's too inflammatory, Miller said, and they can't help but fear for their safety, given some of their personal experiences.
"We've been around through times where we have been given a lot of trouble for being gay, whereas younger people are in a more accepting generation, so they might not feel quite as sensitive about it as we do," Miller said.
So, sometime between this fall and next spring, they will move to the Albany area. Miller said she realizes that many couples can't easily leave states with laws prohibiting same-sex marriage because of family or job obligations. But the couple has no family here, and Miller said a recent reorganization within her company means that she can work from anywhere.
But they prefer not to live in Ohio, because Miller doesn't believe the laws will change to allow same-sex marriage anytime soon. "I can't see it, not in the foreseeable future," she said. "We're not waiting."Cincinnati isn't all that antigay, though. University of Cincinnati law students did put on a drag show full of straight performers, and downtown buildings flew rainbow flags for Pride Month. I do agree that marriage equality is a long way down the road, considering the very conservative governor and legislatures currently in office in Ohio.
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